The Dreams

The man does not characterize itself for its body, nor for determined physical properties, but for its way to exist different of the other beings. Of this place, where the family is located, we will be able to infer that the essence is its existence, different of other human groups. The family if lives deeply only same itself as something, integrated for projects, expectations, frustrations, difficulties, reflections and joys. (THIN, 2003 P. 98). When it appears the family, couple, father or substitute mother/and filho/a, each member constitutes that it is searching to become possible its existence. For a each integrant that the deep one, is a new stage in its personal life and at the same time new reception system of the beginning to the familiar life. In accordance with Thin (2003), the members participate with its ways of being and living learned and developed in its family of biological, adoptive, substitute origin or extensive groups, that the person recognizes as its.

This history of familiar life becomes possible because its integrant ones share a world where experiences and experiences of daily the familiar one can perceive members changing. The birth of a child in the familiar seio almost always is waited with much expectation, since the dreams not yet carried through by the members of the family, frequently is projected for this baby, for times, before exactly of being born. According to Dessen (2002), the birth of the baby with SD consists of a narcsico blow for its familiar ones, not taking care of to the previous expectations of the parents, causing diverse reactions around this child, as the feeling of guilt, loss, isolation, depression, among others. Silva and Dessen (2003) tell that, since the moment of the diagnosis, until the acceptance of the child with SD, the family a long process lives. The feelings go since the shock, negation, anger, revolt and rejection, until the construction of a familiar environment more chemical preparation to include this child.